May 10, 2020

Tips to keep you moving forward during a global pandemic

There is no question these past few months adjusting to an unprecedented lifestyle—quarantine, social distancing, not leaving the house without a mask— has been difficult. Not to mention the fear, uncertainty, financial and emotional stress that have accompanied these times. Many of us have been stuck with these nagging questions—when will this end? What will life be like after? Will things ever go back to the way they once were? How do we continue moving forward during a global pandemic?

It is human nature to need some control over our futures. We like to plan, at least a little. The current times have stripped us of that ability, often leading to increased anxiety for many. This is no doubt a challenge for our mental health.

Alone But Together

At this point you have probably heard the phrase “alone but together,” and (even if you are annoyed with hearing it, again) it is true. You are not alone. Now is a great time to lean on each other. Your neighbors, friends, and family are likely feeling something similar to you. In moments of extreme anxiety, frustration, or sadness reach out to those around you. Send a text. Share a funny or frustrating story from the day. Sometimes just knowing others are going through the same experience can bring a little comfort.

Take It A Day At A Time

The other day I read a question from a friend on social media that said: “What is the first thing you are going to do when this is over?” And while focusing on the future can be a good thing, it can also add to frustration. The truth is we don’t fully know when things will return to normal and it can seem like everyone is telling us to accept a “new normal.”

Rather than thinking about the things you are missing and the things you can’t wait to do, focus on the day as it is. What can you do today that would bring you joy? Maybe it is taking a walk, going on an “ice cream” adventure, a long car ride, a movie marathon, cooking a delicious meal, or a fun virtual game with friends. Whatever it is that you can do right now at the moment is important. It is something within reach and something you can control.

Be Realistic With The Future

As hard as it is to think about it is probably time to come to terms with having that family vacation or summer concert series canceled. Rather than holding out hope that it will still happen, try to be realistic. Talk out your frustrations with a trusted friend, family member, or mental health professional. Maybe take that money you were going to spend and square it away in a special savings account for a future trip.

If you are worried about school starting again in the fall or what your career might look like in the coming months, that's completely understandable. These are all real fears. Try to focus on the positives and understand that things are changing rapidly. Each day we receive new information. Take each day in stride.

All You Have To Do Is Arrive

There is an awful lot of pressure out there to embrace this time, but what about the fact that we are already adjusting to a lot of change? There is no need to put added pressure on yourself to do something extraordinary. You don’t need to learn a new language or repaint your whole home. You don’t need to make every day an adventure for your kids. You just need to arrive safely to the other side. Give yourself grace. Allow yourself time to grieve all of the loss around you.

Focus On What You Can Control

There is a whole lot you can’t control right now, so focus on what you can. You can control how much exercise you get in a day, whether you take a shower, who you call, what you read, the food you will eat, etc. The stuff of the future will be determined as time goes on.

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If you are struggling with your mental health, the counselors at Enteave Counseling are here for you, we are accepting new clients and have flexible hours available.